{"id":7954,"date":"2020-09-23T10:41:27","date_gmt":"2020-09-23T10:41:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.evelinecare.com\/eveline\/?p=7954"},"modified":"2022-03-14T09:40:04","modified_gmt":"2022-03-14T09:40:04","slug":"the-joys-of-having-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.evelinecare.com\/eveline\/blogs\/the-joys-of-having-children\/","title":{"rendered":"The Joys of Having Children"},"content":{"rendered":"

You don\u2019t have to have played house or with dolls to want to add a child or children to your family when you\u2019re an adult. It may even have taken until now for you to feel that you are ready for the responsibility to have children or to find a suitable partner.<\/p>\n

With all the negative articles about having children out there, we thought that it would be a good time to look at the numerous ways that children can bring joy to your life.<\/p>\n

They make you look at the world around you with new eyes
\n<\/b>Whether it\u2019s a ladybug or a rainbow, seeing a child react with absolute amazement and glee makes you look at your environment in a whole different light.<\/p>\n

So often we forget to stop what we\u2019re doing and really take in what\u2019s happening around us.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re swamped at work and feel like you don\u2019t have time to even breathe. Or perhaps you\u2019re engrossed in the messages and feeds on your smartphone.<\/p>\n

Whatever the reason, being forced to stop what you\u2019re doing and pay attention to a child\u2019s new discovery or page of scribbles (that\u2019s actually a portrait of you and how beautiful you are) can brighten your day and even make you feel more relaxed.<\/p>\n

The world is no longer just a dangerous and scary place once you have children \u2013 it has in a way become renewed by\u00a0being seen through a child\u2019s innocent eyes<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You get to indulge your imagination
\n<\/b>Playing and building with Legos and clay, getting dressed up for a tea party with teddy bears, or fighting an evil alien overlord in space are all considered very normal for an otherwise \u201cserious adult\u201d to do when they have children. Indeed, it\u2019s basically part of the job description.\u00a0As is being excited by toy stores and children\u2019s museums<\/a>.<\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you can\u2019t enjoy every moment of using your imagination and playing along.<\/p>\n

The fun of playing with your children, helping them build a blanket fort or camping with them in the living room more than makes up for having to watch the same animated show episode for the hundredth time\u2026<\/p>\n

Watching them grow into their own person
\n<\/b>Most often you\u2019ll hear how your baby is the spitting image of their parents, but for the first while \u2013 even if you can see your partner\u2019s smile in them \u2013 it is difficult, if not impossible, to tell what personality they will have.<\/p>\n

As they grow up (much too fast!), however, you\u2019ll see their personality forming and\u00a0becoming more complex day after day<\/a>. From their mannerisms, learning to use idioms, and coming across their favorite words, to being introverted or extroverted,\u00a0all will\u00a0come together to form a whole new person that you get to know and love unconditionally.<\/p>\n

You get to learn\u00a0<\/b>with\u00a0<\/i><\/b>them
\n<\/b>Did anyone say \u201cdinosaurs\u201d? Almost all kids seem to go through a dinosaur-phase \u2013 and we can\u2019t blame them. If you went through one yourself, you\u2019ll probably still have the basics filed away in your memory somewhere and remember what your favorite dinosaur was (or is).<\/p>\n

But with all the new findings on these creatures that so capture the imagination, you\u2019ll be surprised at the questions that you\u2019ll get asked. So, not only do you get to indulge in a fascination you have, but you will be able to do so along with your children.<\/p>\n

Of course, not all parents and their children have the same interests, but that doesn\u2019t mean that learning will be less fun.<\/p>\n

Seeing your child\u2019s face light up at the\u00a0news of a new dinosaur that\u2019s been discovered<\/a>\u00a0or a new song by their favorite band even makes learning about things outside your interests a lot of fun!<\/p>\n

You learn a lot about yourself and become a better person
\n<\/b>Children mimic the behavior that they see in their parents, so know that you\u00a0are\u00a0<\/i>being watched by your little ones. Seeing how they act around others or even how they play-act in their imaginary worlds with their toys can be a huge eye-opener.<\/p>\n

So, if you have a quick temper that leads to dramatic ranting over the phone, your language includes some f-bombs or you never use the \u201cmagic words\u201d, you can be sure that your child will do the same.<\/p>\n

And they\u2019ll usually do it at the most inopportune time to leave you feeling as small as can be.<\/p>\n

The same goes for social evils that you see in the world.<\/p>\n

If you want to see a world without the myriad forms of hate and filled with loving, empathetic people, the change really does start with you. Showing compassion and empathy to others will lead to you being a positive role model for your children.<\/p>\n

Children will often mimic their parents\u2019 choices in food<\/a>\u00a0and whether they choose healthy or unhealthy foods.<\/p>\n

Being able to show your children what healthy eating looks like, instead of simply telling them to eat their veggies, is a good reason to change your eating habits. The impact that you will have on your children will, in turn, benefit their health and habits in the future.<\/p>\n

Having children, therefore, lets you have a good look at yourself and make the changes in your own behavior that you want to see in your children. Do as I do and not as I say, indeed!<\/p>\n

You can connect more with others
\n<\/b>Between playgroups, mommy and me classes, pre-school, play dates, and visiting family, a whole world of future friends will open for you. You may even spend more time with your parents and siblings than you have in years.<\/p>\n

Once you become a parent, you will also understand how much your parents love you and how unconditional the love for a child is. You will also start to realize just how difficult it is to raise children \u2013 not to mention the great responsibility that rests on your shoulders. This may lead you to connect with your parents on another, deeper level than you would have been able to before.<\/p>\n

You get a whole new outlook on life and what really matters
\n<\/b>As you grow up, you start to realize that some of the things that you thought were incredibly important are, in fact, not that meaningful. Once you have children, however, you\u2019ll find that\u00a0your whole perspective<\/a>\u00a0about what is important and really matters in life, changes.<\/p>\n

Spending time worrying about whether your favorite celebrity has cellulite or following your social feeds for hours every day fall by the wayside as this new little person takes over your heart.<\/p>\n

Although you may now, as a parent, see the world as a more dangerous place, you also think a lot more about the future and how you can leave the world a better place for your children and grandchildren.<\/p>\n

Having children can have significant health benefits
\n<\/b>There\u2019s often such a focus on the hormonal roller-coaster of pregnancy, that the health benefits that can come with it aren\u2019t considered:<\/p>\n